Most people begin to question their self-worth at early puberty and from that moment on, they continue to constantly evaluate or devalue themselves as the years go by. The first thing that’s important to understand is that self-worth is the image people have of themselves and the value they give to their existence. These two are constantly challenged by the environment you are living in: the people that surround you, the things you do on your daily life and,your relationships have a great impact on how you see yourself and how you change or modify your definitions of self. Here are some ways in which having a low-self-esteem can affect you:
It Will Affect Every Aspect of Your Life: Think of it as a domino effect, if you have low self-esteem other areas of your life will be affected by it, starting by the most important ones: your relationships and social interactions. The image you have of yourself determines greatly how you interact with others and what type of relationships you develop. Most abusive, negative and destructive relationships involve a victim with low self-esteem.
It Raises More Questions than it Answers: people with low self-esteem and no sense of self-worth tend to question themselves often which can lead to many unfinished projects and unrealized dreams. It can also make them more sensitive towards the opinions of others because they don’t trust their own thoughts and ideas since they never get to finish or work on them.
Low self-esteem is linked to Depression, Stress and Anxiety Disorders: usually these start out by someone losing their sense of worth completely or gradually due to specific circumstances in their life. Many psychologists and psychotherapists agree that by working on their patient’s self-esteem other emotional problems and destructive behaviors were resolved.
It acts like a virus: your low self-esteem doesn’t just affects you it also affects those around you. The people that love you and care about you suffer as a consequence of witnessing the damage it does to you. This is not meant to make you feel guilty, but rather help you visualize your self-worth as something that goes beyond you and that by protecting it, you’re also protecting others.
Improving your self-worth is all about practice and constantly reminding yourself that you deserve to treat yourself better and feel good about who you are, your existence and your future. Here’s some important things you need to take care of if you seek to improve or strengthen your self-worth:
Don’t let the thought you aren’t good enough rent space in your head. Beginning to question your worth is the root of low self-confidence. Humans have the habit of thinking of the worth of things and seem to want to apply a value to nearly everything. We’re not all the same and we can’t be given the same value, questioning our value or that of others in terms of how important or how necessary we are in life is toxic. We were all born to find our own special place in this world and all of us are needed for something.
Shut your ears and open your eyes. The most important fact you have to keep in your head is that the opinion others have of you does not define your self-worth. Respect towards other people is essential, despite what you think of them, but respect doesn’t means you have to let their opinions affect the core of who you are. It’s a challenge to be completely repellent towards the things people say to devalue you, but once you do, you will feel much better about yourself.
Remove toxic people from your life. If somebody only has to say bad things about you, seems to nearly dedicate their life to making you feel bad about yourself and doesn’t sees the potential you have, don’t allow them a spot in your life. Distance yourself from them as much as possible and don’t believe in their words.
Acknowledge your talents and passions. Everybody things they’re absolutely crazy about and that they really enjoy. It doesn’t matter what it is or even if you’re not as good at what you enjoy doing as other people doing the same thing seem to be. Its the passion you have for those particular things makes you amazing in your own way, can inspire other people, can make other people laugh and has the potential to make you happy on a grey day. Don’t hide your talents or passions, don’t think you have to be perfect at what you’re doing, just do things that make you happy.
The wikipedia description of self esteem.