Learning to Forgive Yourself

Forgiving ourselves is crucial for a healthy emotional life and failing to do so can lead to a myriad of issues. It doesn’t matters what it is that has happened there should be such thing as “I won’t forgive myself for this” or “I’ll never get over it”. The first step after recognizing you’ve done something wrong to someone or to yourself, is forgiving yourself for it.

What has happened, has happened. Still scolding yourself for the things you did wrong in the past does not change anything about your current situation. The realization that what you did was not good is important, you had it, but now it’s time to consider it a part of your past that has taught you a lesson and face the future. You don’t ever have to make it happen again. If you weren’t your best self in the past, you can be your best self today.

Willingness to admit your mistakes to yourself and act differently the next time you have to face the same problem is the key to success, not being angry at yourself or refusing to let it go. A mistake does not define you as a person.

Sometimes we don’t forgive ourselves for the emotional situations we are in. If you’ve been depressed, resentful, feeling bad about yourself or frustrated with your emotions for a very long time it can make you angry at yourself for not being able to make a change for the better. This is when it’s most important to let go and treat yourself with love and respect. If you were injured physically, you wouldn’t get mad at yourself, you’d work on nursing yourself back to health. Think of the things that ail your mind, spirit and emotions as injuries that need to be nursed back to health with love, respect and patience.

Remember that we are all only human and the past can’t be change but the present can help you improve your future. Don’t let your mistakes become rocks that pull you down, let them be lessons that bring you forward.

 

Things to do to Stay Positive through Hard Times

You may be going through a hard time or a rough patch in your life and you’re wondering how you’re going to be able to keep your chin up. You might be tired or scared that you’re losing patience and can no longer keep up a smiling face towards your problems. Things might not always happen the way we want them to but learning to shift the circumstances of life to our favor and find silver linings is an art that can be developed and greatly improve our ability to stay positive through the difficult times.

  1. Meditate: through meditation you can get rid of all your thoughts and let your soul, mind and spirit become blank slates. At first, it’s hard to quiet your thoughts and let go of them but with practice, meditation can help you let go of negativity, rejuvenate yourself and relax.

 

  1. Hobbies: find something that makes you feel relaxed and happy and set aside some time to let yourself go through that activity. It doesn’t matters what it is, it can be reading, writing, crafts, watching your favorite TV show just as long as it allows you to take your mind off reality for a short while.

 

  1. Volunteer: a good way to stay positive and feel like, in the midst of all your problems, you’re still finding a way to make good things happens is to volunteer for a cause of your choice.

 

  1. Rant: yes, ranting doesn’t sounds very positive does it? But sometimes, ranting is exactly what we need to let off some steam. Whether you have someone to talk to or you just need to talk to yourself, don’t be afraid to speak up and let your feelings run their course. Sulking will never help you stay positive but through ranting, you can get all the negative feelings and thoughts off you.

 

  1. Look for the silver linings: Life isn’t perfect and being aggressively positive isn’t realistic either but, a good way to stay positive through hard times is by looking for the good in the bad. This is no easy task but with practice, you will be able to find the silver linings in life and make the best out of it.

 

What’s most important is that you always remember that feeling bummed or sad is okay. You won’t be able to stay happy at all times regardless of what happens. Trying to keep a positive outlook in life is not about literally keeping a preppy attitude but about knowing deep inside that negative situations are temporary and that with time, things work out.

A stay positive story